If you’re anything like me, you understand the tight bond I have with Microsoft Outlook. Because of the overload of logistical planning in my operational role, email is easily my number one form of communication with the outside world. And I have come to realize, through underestimating the power of emails at times, that email relationships are real relationships, but without the added benefit of non-verbal or audio cues for context, tone, or meaning. Thus, I cherish and consistently apply the Golden Rule: Do unto others in email as you would have done unto you.
Between early 2009 and today, nearly two and a half years later, I’ve had literally tens of thousands of messages fly out of my outbox—and that doesn’t include archived/deleted/personal accounts. I wish I could say that with quantity comes quality, but, sadly, I cannot. If it were true, I wouldn’t have had the kinds of confused email exchanges that can result in more than simply lack of clarity—but in emotional outcomes I couldn’t have imagined.
Recipients of my emails, at times, have read all sorts of “meaning” into communications I thought were pretty straight-forward and friendly. So, through trial and error, I have become an advocate for “resonant emails.” Resonance is defined as being awake, aware and in tune with yourself and others. By writing resonant, well-thought out, intentional emails, I have more effectively and efficiently given, received and confirmed information. It’s become a business imperative.
Here are some tips to follow when writing resonant emails.
Finally a word of caution: If you’re really tired, over emotional, need an answer quickly or you have to write a novel in order to explain something—email isn’t the best option. As Annie McKee suggests in her book, Management: A Focus on Leaders, “If you receive an email that causes you to have a strong emotional reaction, do not respond immediately. Calm down, reflect on the message, and then respond appropriately—which may or may not be via e-mail.”
Many people still thrive on face to face contact, it keeps things well-oiled for resonant emails to flow—so don’t forget to pick up the phone every once in a while or get up from your desk and go for a walk to visit people at their desks for some good old relating.
What tips do you have about emailing?
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